Tuesday, May 07, 2019

Arya Stark and That Welcome Uncomfortable Feeling

Fans can be weird when it comes to their favorite characters. Arya Stark made love to Gendry on Game of Thrones and fans lost it. While it was sort of funny considering the usual amount of sex on the show, it did bring home just how emotionally invested people were in the character of Arya Stark. Keep in mind that people have been watching her since early adolescence, so to see Arya going full out with Gendry was discomforting, to say the least. It's not so much because of the setting, but Arya just wasn't seen as a sexual character before that scene; it just felt strange to see someone cross that final threshold into womanhood.

And that discomfort is something we need to strive for as writers. There are a number of things that characters do that cause us to feel uncomfortable, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. Casting dark magic, having sex, even using an unexpected swear word; there are always going to be weird thresholds that the audience is not going to want to see crossed. This is not necessarily a bad thing; it just means that you have done your job as a writer and have established rules about how your world works, and that you've consistent with those rules. The discomfort of your audience is your reward and it can feel sort of nice.

That's sort of an important point. There are two ways to do character development: Deep end style and frog style. Too many writers have been taught that if you want to develop character you need to do it through crisis; nothing builds character like tossing the character into an emergency and see what happens, much like you would toss a kid into the deep end of a pool in order to teach them how to swim. The problem is that you can't do this all of them; throwing your characters into crisis after crisis gets boring and it makes your writing predictable. It also eliminates any point of reference, and those are necessary for suspension of disbelief.

On the other hand, there's frog style. If you heat a frog slowly in a pan of water it will never feel the rise in temperature; it becomes a major shock to realize that the frog dies from the heat when you saw it doing pretty well. Sometimes you need to have the character develop surely and slowly over a long period of time, and then force the audience to realize that the character has undergone a major personality change over time; the realization that a character has changed before your eyes can be all sorts of fun, especially when the audience has gotten used to a certain concept.

This is sort of where people are with Arya. While we've seen her become more than the frightened little girl of the first season, the changes have been so relatively gradual compared to the rest of the GoT cast; we've seen her mature and become a formidable warrior over the seasons. However, we forgot that she was also maturing and becoming a young woman in her own right. The sex scene was the culmination of a long character arc, and one that needed to happen so that the audience would finally see her as that powerful young woman instead of the girl; it was a necessary scene in order to put the finishing touches on that character.

It was an uncomfortable scene to watch not because we disliked the character, but because it forced us to accept that the character has undergone some major changes since her introduction, and some of us just weren't ready for it. Just like our real-world daughters and nieces, we didn't want to see her cross the threshold into womanhood; no one ever really wants to think about the sex life of teenagers but it's part of their growing up. And that's not a bad uncomfortable feeling...it's also something that we need to use in our own works more.

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